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This book gave a lot of insights into the therapeutic process but I found the guy a total putz very self aware of his own reactions to the patients he describes but not so concerned about their own experience of the process that he wouldn t describe them in great detail to the world at large Also just comes off as self satisfied it made the reading distasteful and I didn t finish in the end I couldn t stand the supercilious sense he gives of being in some way better than his clients The stories of 10 patients experiences in psychotherapy but they feel like much The stories offer a surprisingly engaging window to peek into the struggles of patients w the very same existential pains and miseries everyone experiences The author is a practicing therapist and he based these stories on his patients suitably amended to ensure anonymity He reflects much on his own role in the therapeutic relationship and these reflections are often as interesting as the stories of his patientsEach person s story is engaging their narrative just as intriguing as fiction They each come to therapy to somewhat deal with their issues and get better and move on But some are really ready to see and take in even painful insights about themselves and ready to take painful steps to change Otherssadlyare not In this sense these stories represent very nicely the same phenomenon in the rest of the human race We are all getting older and a feware growing up A fitting title would be How counter transference insidious prejudice and sexism destroys the therapeutic process The man s a creep and from what I can tell in these vignettes a poor to average psychotherapist Though I can see how one could become seduced by his writings and spurious analysis to believe there is some insights to be gleamed from this book From both my personal and professional experience I had come to believe that the fear of death is always greatest in those who feel that they have not lived their life fully A good working formula is the unlived life or unrealized potential the greater one s death anxietyIn his book Love s Executioner Irvin Yalom a psychotherapist with several decades of experience shares ten stories of individuals he counseled in a professional setting Each of these tales revolves around different presenting problems ranging from a man whose cancer has left him ravenous for sex to a woman who blames herself for her daughter s death ears after her passing Yalom ties together all of these uniue clients with overarching themes pertaining to how we must accept and conuer our fear of death how we must assume responsibility for the course of our lives and how we must construct meaning within ourselves in order to thriveWhile some of those concepts might sound cliche how we must construct meaning assume responsibility for the course of our lives accept and conuer our fear of death Yalom presents them in fascinating complex and unpretentious ways He examines his clients with an insightful lens treats them like humans in an understanding and open relationship and uses skilled therapeutic techniues to provoke insight and growth Not all of his stories end on a clean note and their ambiguous resolutions exemplify the complex and bumpy nature of therapy similar to the convoluted uality of humans themselvesYalom s openness stands out as a strong
in this book In his afterword in which reflects on writing this book at 55 after reading it again at 80 he admits to feeling embarrassed due to some of the content in Love s Executioner Throughout the ten tales he discloses information such as how he had "to work through his prejudice against fat people how he urged a woman "work through his prejudice against fat people how he urged a woman put her dog to rest and how he himself would get bored by certain clients His honesty his willingness to scrutinize himself and his commitment to positive self growth show that therapists even experienced ones still remain human We all progress and learn together even in a therapist client relationshipRecommended to those interested in psychology therapy and reading about people A fascinating book that makes me want to read of Yalom s writing including his fiction Executing love rationally Overcoming the fear of death Accepting one s mortalityPsychologists get some interesting tasks in their workdays don t theyThat s when I will be truly dead when I exist in no one s memory cI think my uarry is illusion I war against magic I believe that though illusion often cheers and comforts it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit cI do not like to work with patients who are in love Perhaps it is because of envy I too crave enchantment Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection I hate to be love s executioner cOne of the great paradoxes of life is that self awareness breeds anxiety cSome people are wish blocked knowing neither what they feel nor what they want Without opinions without impulses without inclinations they become parasites on the desires of others cPeople who feel empty never heal by merging with another incomplete person On the contrary two broken winged birds coupled into one make for clumsy flight No amount of patience will help it fly and ultimately each must be pried from the other and wounds separately splinted c the fear of death is always greatest in those who feel that they have not lived their life fully A good working formula is the unlived life or unrealized potential the greater one s death anxiety c X c There is no adventure exciting nothing so wonderful and frightening and so fraught with danger as delving into the mind of a human being On that point alone this book is moving and emotional and funny as few works of fiction can be When going on such a perilous journey into the true heart of darkness it behooves one to have an experienced and trustworthy guide Dr Irving Yalom knows the terrain. The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D Yalom uncovers the mysteries frustrations pathos and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter In recou.
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Eseu romanţat asupra neizbânzii yet I would prefer having Fred C Dobbs showing me the way in The Treasure of the Sierra Madre At least with Dobbsou know where Things for the Surgeon you stand Yalom is duplicitous and self aggrandizing his writing screams contempt and distain for all but his most attractive female patients At the same time his writing when keeping to the trail of his client s problems is compelling and insightful But it is Yalom s incessant and obnoxious inner monologue that ruins this book for me Yalom is smarmy and lascivious to women he finds attractive and dismissive and cruel in his descriptions of those who don t match his standards He compartmentalizes men in the same way When one women far below his standards and the first of the ten case studies that make up the book says her last therapist called her on her shitty habits Yalom tells us This phrase startled me It didn t fit with the rest of her presentation That s how I felt about him throughout the book The insight he shows in the introduction of the book is waylaid time and time again by his incessant obnoxious and judgmental inner monologue This along with his ego and self centeredness proved for a very unenjoyable read If I want to read the musings of a horndog I ll stick with Errol Flynn s My Wicked Wicked Ways and be spared the hubris But wait What s this an afterword Ah written 25ears after the book was first published Now I ll see the wisdom of the man who wrote the introduction Now matured and distilled by age and experience I ll see the wise reflections on his egotistic insulting asides and comments of his freshman book But what to my wondering eyes do appear He actually envies and praises his writing He makes a very backhanded apology for what he wrote about one of his clients but finds room to lionize himself even there I don t care about his experience reputation or certifications If it looks like a schmuck swims like a schmuck and uacks like a schmuck then it probably is a schmuck A friend gave me this book a few days ago My friend is very well educated has lived all over the world and has experienced than most people When he gave me the book he said to me This book reflects my vision of the worldHow could I help but be intriguedOpening the book he then read the following passage from the Preface Four givens are particularly relevant for psycho therapy the inevitability of death for each of us and for those we love the freedom to make our lives as we will our ultimate aloneness and final I had originally started Irvin D Yalom s newest release Becoming Myself where he mentioned this collection of stories which sounded fitting because my attention span was slight at the timeLove s Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy offers a keen insight on ten patients from all walks of life who turned to therapy all ten were suffering the common problems of everyday life loneliness self contempt impotence migraine headaches sexual compulsivity obesity hypertension grief a consuming love obsession mood swings depression Yet somehow a somehow that unfolds differently in each story therapy uncovered deep roots of these everyday problems roots stretching down to the bedrock of existence Though the problems may be considered common problems of everyday life Love s Executioner made them seem like anything problems of everyday life Love s Executioner made them seem like anything Yalom writes his patients with the utmost respect and interestI d like to mention in particular one story that started off the collection on a bang for me with Thelma a depressed suicidal seventy The Carpenters year old woman who for the past eightears could not relinuish her obsessive love for a man thirty five Los Hijos del Orden yearsounger Perhaps the function of the obsession was simply to provide intimacy it bonded her to "another but not to a real person to a fantasy My attention was "but not to a real person to a fantasy My attention was to her I went through a turmoil of emotions reading her story and came out of it with a changed perspective of my own It was such a wild ride that in the end I felt like both the doctor and the patient being treated The longest piece deservingly so You are Why Place Matters youou have To Rabbittown your own existenceou continue to be the person Commentaries and Cases on the Law of Business Organization, 2009-2010 Statutory Supplement you are from moment to moment from day to day Basicallyour existence is impervious to the fleeting thoughts to the electromagnetic ripples occurring in some unknown mind Try to see that All this power that Matthew has Stygiophilia you ve given it to him every bit of it What goes on in another person s mind someoneou never even see who probably isn t even aware of The Moth Diaries your existence who is caught up in his own life struggles doesn t change the personou are I was easily swept away into the pensive and therapeutic writing Style It Offered An It offered an look into moments not many of us get to see represented The book also had many noteworthy lines that left an imprint on me such as You know there is no one alive now who was grown up when I was a child So I as a child am dead Some day soon perhaps in forty Misconduct (Birmingham Rebels, years there will be no one alive who has ever known me That s when I will be truly dead when I exist in no one s memory I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people When that old person dies the whole cluster dies too vanishes from living memory I wonder who that person will be for me Whose death will make me truly dead This precise piece of commentary struck meSpeaking of which this note on experiencing love at first sight was so satisfying to agree on You don t know this person In a Proustian wayou ve packed this creature full of the attributes Hollywood Education you so desire You ve fallen in love withour own creation At the expense of sounding a bit abrasive this book was perfect for my nosy self that likes to hear personal stories without having to share something of myself in exchange And though I did not agree with the tactics used in certain tales I read on in fascination of the differing views of reality presented Now I can move on to Yalom s newest releaseOh and one last thing I have to highlight upon ending. Nting his patients' dilemmas Yalom not only gives us a rare and enthralling glimpse into their personal desires and motivations but also tells us his own story as he struggles to re. ,
My review this piece on experiencing crushes At a conference approximately two ears prior to meeting Thelma I had encountered a woman who subseuently invaded my mind my thoughts my dreams Her image took up housekeeping in my mind and defied all my efforts to dislodge it But for a time that was all right I liked the obsession and savored it afresh again and again A few weeks later I went on a week s vacation with my family to a beautiful Caribbean island It was only after several days that I realized I was missing everything on the trip the beauty of the beach the lush and exotic vegetation even the thrill of snorkeling and entering the underwater world All this rich reality had been blotted out by my obsession I had been absent I had been encased in my mind watching replays over and over again of the same and by then pointless fantasy Anxious and thoroughly fed up with myself I entered therapy et again and after several hard months my mind was my own again and I was able to return to the exciting business of experiencing my life as it was happening Note I m an Affiliate If ou re interested in buying Love s Executioner just click on the image below to go through my link I ll make a small commission Support creators ou love Buy a Coffee for nat bookspoils with Ko ficombookspoils Your therapist is judging Jan, Jans en de kinderen 11 you Sorry it sucks I know the idea is that they are objective observers looking out forour best interest rather than the often hypercritical dismissive average human being with a capacity for conversational boredom and bad advice but they re not Especially not Dr Yalom Dr Yalom hates fat people he develops a sexual attraction to one of his patients multiple personalities and encourages her to incorporate this split self into her overarching self so she ll be a entertaining patient and won t be so pathetic in general he successfully convinces a lady to euthanize her incontinent dog in order to bolster her sex life jerk he sizes his patients up as hopeless human beings rambling about how annoying certain cases were for him with details describing each individual while masking their identities to protect confidentiality in an almost Deconstructing Harry Leslie s not Lucy sort of way He is walking a lawsuit razor s edge and I wouldn t be the least bit surprised if one of these folks showed up at his house with a pistol There s not a chance in hell that I d go see him after reading this I mean he gets pretty catty pretty oh shut up ou whiny little bitch He reaaally lays into that fat lady He calls people names He relays very personal veryvery embarrassing information and then scoffs at it As off putting as this is though it s also one of the things that make the book stick out Honesty One of the best scenes in the tv Hannibal is where Dr Lecter s most annoying patient is relaying a fantasy alternate reality where he saves Michael Jackson from death by being his best friend The look on Hannibal s face and condescending tone of his voice is priceless god ou are insufferable blubbering excuse for a human being Cannibal or not shrinkydinks are just people at the end of the day with the same penchant for annoyance as Drittes Reich und Zweiter Weltkrieg you or I the same neuroses and triggers Just people Your therapist is judgingouTo Dr Yalom s credit he is not asserting that his preconceived notions about his past patients were fair or accurate This book is as much about the individual cases he has dealt with as about his growth as a psychiatrist his separating of his own prejudices from the therapeutic process In that sense it is both intriguing and kinda weirdly narcissistic This book seems less for people with a passing interest in psychotherapy and for future head docs who need to really understand that IN THEIR CHOSEN FIELD THEY ARE their chosen field they are much up against their inherent selves as they are the problems their patients "are seeking help facing the cases are mostly "seeking help facing The cases are mostly I d assume to be pretty garden variety but they still hold interest Well except for that last one where it was all about analyzing some dude s dreams because snooze I could fall asleep listening to my loved ones dreams let alone those of some average stranger It wasn t a waste of time at all but I m not sure I d recommend a waste of time at all but I m not sure I d recommend Mostly because of that thing with the dog Psychiatrist Dr Irvin D Yalom is married to a feminist scholar which is highly surprising considering the fact that he regards women in a very sexualized and demeaning way Unless they were attractive women he displayed a worrying degree of contempt towards his patients He seemed to have one derogatory thought after another about them In the story The Fat Lady he even admits that his contempt for fat ladies surpassed all cultural norms But the fat lady Betty offered him an opportunity to improve his personal skills as a therapist She represented to him the ultimate countertransference challenge and for that very reason he offered to be her therapist I have always been repelled by fat women I find them repulsive their absurd sidewise waddle their absence of body contour breasts laps buttocks shoulders jawlines cheekbones everything everything I like to see in a woman obscured in an avalanche of flesh And I hate their clothes the shapeless baggy dresses or worse the stiff elephantine blue jeans How dare they impose that body on the rest of us I have always admired perhaps than many men the woman s body No not just admired I have elevated idealized ecstacized it to a level and a goal that exceeds all reason Do I resent the fat woman for her desecration of my desire for bloating and profaning each lovely feature that I cherish For stripping away my sweet illusion and revealing its base of flesh flesh on the rampage Even after finishing this book a few months ago this fat lady case is still on my mind from time to time Reading about these ten psychotherapeutic cases was interesting the repeated denigratory comments on his patients however were often painful to read To be honest I wouldn t want to lie down on his couch510. Concile his all too human responses with his sensibility as a psychiatrist Not since Freud has an author done so much to clarify what goes on between a psychotherapist and a patient.